For those of you who have read Stone Benches, you know I am "The Big Surprise". If you do not yet know this about me, that's okay. I just recently found out myself. My Mom always showered me with grand attention on my birthday - as you can see in this photograph from my 2nd birthday.
If you are experiencing this disease with a parent who no longer remembers your birthday, or a spouse who is no longer able to acknowledge an anniversary, or the relationship it represents - I offer you a hug of support. You are loved. Whether your loved one can communicate it or not.
Their love for you remains and resides within.
I put on a brave front, but my 40th birthday was crushing. The realization that my mother no longer remembered my birthday, much less my name, or the fact I was her daughter, was devastating. My beautiful Aunt June stepped in that year, inviting me to lunch and showering me with attention. Over the years, I have learned to orchestrate my own celebrations with my parents.
I had a lunch date with Dad and his buddies today. Of course, he didn't know I was coming - I continue to be a big surprise! Texts and singing phone calls were coming in from his aides this morning. By the time I got to Memory Care, the director of hospice had arrived with cookies for the residents in celebration of my birthday. The activities director played the keyboard while family members, residents, and staff sang to me. Dad played the drums on the table. I made precious memories at Memory Care today.
Dad and I have found community - folks to celebrate life with here.
I have been blessed with many surprises on my birthday - including phone calls, messages, and texts from friends far and near. My aunt took me out to lunch yesterday and has planned a birthday party for me this weekend. I had coffee with my daughter who lives local and, thanks to technology, the two who live out of state. They surprised me with roses and have planned a weekend of memory making on a mother/daughters getaway. My amazing husband booked one of my favorite artists to play at Stone Benches book launch next month. We will celebrate over dinner tonight and he has kept the location a secret!
The biggest surprise of all undeniably came from my mother's home in Heaven. My beautiful mom loved to read, had a master vocabulary, and most of all loved to help others. I can think of no greater gift than to know I am encouraging others and offering them a hand of support. Stone Benches has given me the ability to do this in a powerful way. Word came today, on my birthday, of this book being available on a grander scale.
Stone Benches is now available at Barnes and Noble Bookstores!
It can be ordered on Barnes and Noble website as of today and will soon be on shelves nationwide. My local Barnes and Noble will feature Stone Benches on their local author table. Watch for me at the book signing on May 7th! Only my mom could orchestrate this kind of grand attention on my birthday. Thanks, Mom - I'm so glad to know I made you proud!
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